Can Younger Women Older Man Relationships Work?
Age is relative, but when it comes to love it’s subjective. Growing up without a father I think contributes to the growing number of younger women-older men relationships and vice versa for men growing up without a mother. Due to the growing divorce rate, 50% and rising-we as a society are seeing a lot more age gap relationships. I can remember a time when these kinds of relationships concerned us greatly. Are we growing immune to them or just breaking out of a mold that we have put ourselves in? As a single girl, the greatest age gap for me was about 20 yrs. I was 30 and he was 50 and I have to say I didn’t even think of him as a father figure or even someone’s father-probably because he was a confirmed bachelor. As young adults we are trained to look at older men as father figures, but as we grow older we start to develop our own minds and ways of thinking. It is almost as though a Cinderella solution where you tend to jump from one situation to another.
I don’t know at what age it starts to change or how but as we pass our 30’s we as women who are still single look at all men differently. Is it because we are growing desperate to find “the one”? Maybe that has something to do with it, but we also find out we really don’t have a “type” of man we are looking for anymore. Fairy tales, we realize are just that and they don’t belong in real life. Looks are not everything anymore. We start to look at sense of humor and personality more and more and more and most of us young single women are looking at older men who have those traits. Because, let’s face it, in today’s world men our own age are just not maturing fast enough for us.
They say older men are commitmentphobes; especially the ones who have managed to stay single their entire life. But they also say it takes a special kind of woman to make them settle. If you are in one of these relationships, just remember one word. Patience. If you love them you find out you have it in abundance. And for all those girls/women out there that think they have a type, think again. Explore your options while you still can. I’m here to tell you, older men make the best companions as you grow older yourself. They know how life is because they have already lived it. They will allow you to make your own mistakes though because they know that’s the way to live life. Older men are down to earth men because they are settled in their ways. They don’t try and be something their not, they already tried that when they were younger, and they don’t monopolize your time, they have their own lives to live and they just want companionship while living that life. But to each her own, you know? Older men are not right for every women and I’m not trying to sell you on them. But if I have made a dent in the way of your thinking, I think I’ve made some progress. Go out there and experience girls! Life is too short to live in a box.